I've also had a longtime friend turn out to be a predator, and it fucking sucked. I'm incredibly sorry you're going through this. Grappling with it this way is the only honest path, but it's so hard and requires a lot of strength, and it's not like you were sitting there going, "What shall I do with all these extra emotional resources and energy I have?"

And for what it's worth, I was pretty tapped into a lot of whisper networks for a long time and I didn't know either.

Sending you infinite support.